Ubugqi bokuphupha buKhulu

Ukuba awuphuphi mkhulu ngokwaneleyo, ubaluleke kakhulu kwizinto ezincinci. Inyaniso ebuhlungu yobomi yeyokuba abantu abaphili ukuze bafezekise amandla abo apheleleyo. Amaxesha amaninzi, isenzo sokusinda siyabadla. Ukufumana imali eyaneleyo yokuphila ubomi obutofotofo kuthatha lonke ixesha labo. Yaye ekugqibeleni, abakayifumani injongo nolwaneliseko kubomi babo.

Yintoni engalunganga apha? Kwenzeka njani ukuba abantu abaphangelayo, abanomvuzo oncumisayo nabaphila ubomi obutofotofo, baphinde babufumane ubomi babo bungenantsingiselo yaye bungenaxabiso? Akufunekanga ukuba bonwabe kuba benemali engena; bangathenga benze unothanda?

Qonda ukuba ukufumana ubomi obanelisayo kunye nolonwabo ayikokwenza nje iitoni zemali, ukonwabela ubunewunewu, kunye nokuba nexesha lokuphumla… yinxalenye yoko. Enye inxalenye yinto abantu abaninzi abayikhumbulayo: Imalunga nokuqonda injongo yobomi bakho kwaye wenze ngayo yonke imihla. Oku kuvelisa intshisakalo eyenza ubomi bakho bube nentsingiselo. Ikhulula intliziyo yakho kwizibophelelo zemisebenzi yesiqhelo engenantsingiselo kwaye ikunika ikamva eliqaqambileyo onokuthi ujonge phambili kulo. Yonke imihla iya kuba yimini entsha, apho uvuka kwaye uthi, "Olu lusuku lokudlala!" Kwaye uhambe uye kwenza iitoni zemali kwaye udlale umdlalo wobomi. Kodwa ngeli xesha, uyayiqonda injongo yakho kwaye yiyo loo nto wonwabile.

Ngoko uyiqonda njani injongo yakho? Uyazi njani into onokuba yiyo?

Ngamnye wethu wahlukile. Ubuntu bethu, iminqweno, kunye nobizo lobomi zahlukile. Andikwazi ukukuxelela ntoni akho amandla apheleleyo. Igama elithi 'yakho' lithetha ukuba kufuneka wenze isigqibo malunga nokuba yintoni na amandla apheleleyo kuthetha ntoni kuwe – ubiza ntoni umphefumlo wakho? Sonke sinesakhono esizalwa nalo okanye ubukhulu obuleleyo kuthi... side sibutyhile kwaye sibukhulise. Qaphela ukuba ndithe 'tyhila', hayi 'ukufumanisa' kuba xa ufumanisa, yinto entsha nengaziwayo. Kodwa xa utyhila, kukuqonda amandla ahlala ekhona.

Ukukhulula amandla akho, kufuneka ube nombono wokuba yintoni na. Kufuneka ube nomfanekiso omkhulu wobomi bakho ucingelwe ngokucacileyo engqondweni yakho. Lo mbono ukunika indawo oya kuyo kodwa awukubonisi indlela yokufika apho. Ilungile. Siza kuzoba eyethu imaphu yendlela kamva. Ukukwazi nje ukubona lo mbono sele kulinyathelo elikhulu lokuphumeza injongo yobomi bakho. Uwufumana njani ke umbono? Kukho iindlela ezimbalwa, kwaye ndiza kucebisa ezinye ezindisebenzeleyo. 

Iindlela Zokufumana Umbono 

Ixesha lephupha lobuqu

Thatha ixesha lokuphumla, mhlawumbi ngorhatya okanye ngempelaveki ukuze ube nexesha elimnandi lokucingisisa buqu. Dlala umculo opholileyo - uhlobo olukuphumza kwaye ukhulule ingqondo yakho. Hlala okanye ungqengqe, ukhetho lwakho.

Ngelixa uphumle, qala ngokukhumbula ixesha elidlulileyo. Qala usemncinci. Ayeyintoni amaphupha akho ebuntwaneni? Ubusoloko ufuna ukuba yintoni? Khumbula ukuba.

Ngoku, qhubela phambili kubomi bakho njengoko busenzeka kude kube ngoku. Ukuqaphela indlela amaphupha akho atshintshe ngayo. Ngelixa usenjenjalo, yiva ngentliziyo yakho ngephupha elikuphembelela kakhulu kwaye likugcwalise ngokumangalisayo. Ngokungathi unokuthi, “Kuyamangalisa okanye kuyamangalisa!” Eli phupha lubizo olunokubakho.

Gcina Ingxelo

Inkumbulo iyagqwetheka ngokuhamba kwexesha. Kodwa unokububona kakuhle ubomi bakho ukuba ugcina ingxelo yabo. Le rekhodi ibalulekile ukuze wazi umfanekiso omkhulu wobomi bakho njengoko usenzeka yonke imihla. Qala ijenali yakho. Bhala phantsi iingcinga zakho ngaphambi kokulala. Qaphela into ehambe kakuhle namhlanje, into okhangele phambili kuyo ngomso, kunye nento onqwenela ukuyiphupha malunga ngokuhlwanje. Ngokuqokelela ngokuthe ngcembe iingcamango zakho zangaphakathi, unokulandela inkqubela yakho ebomini, ubone ukuba kukho utshintsho olubalulekileyo olwenzekileyo kwaye ukuba kunjalo, ngcono okanye embi?

Thatha iifoto zabahlobo bakho, iindawo ozindwendwelayo, wena ngokwakho kangangoko unakho, njalo njalo. Iifoto zibuyisa iinkumbulo ezicacileyo kwaye ziirekhodi ezichanekileyo zobomi bakho. Ukuba usebenzisa ikhamera yedijithali, unokufuna ukuqalisa ijenali kwikhompyuter yakho. Emva koko unokongeza iifoto, iividiyo, kunye neaudio kwijenali yakho. Ungaprinta ijenali yakho eyakheke kakuhle ukuze wabelane nabahlobo, uyipapashe kwi-Intanethi, okanye uyiguqule ibe yimemo yencwadi okanye i-autobiography.

Yenza uHlahlelo lweNyuroloji

Okumangalisayo kukuba, ukuvumisa ngamanani ngumthombo olungileyo wokuqonda xa kufikwa ekuphumezeni injongo yakho ebomini. Ubalo lwendlela yokuzalwa, inombolo yekamva, kunye nohlalutyo lwegama kunokukutyhilela injongo obuyilahlile, kodwa nzulu entliziyweni yakho, eyaziwa ubomi bakho bonke. Ungazifumana usithi, “Heyi yinyani… inika umdla!”

Yenza uvavanyo lobuntu

Thatha uvavanyo lwe-MBTI (Myers-Briggs Type Indicator). Ungafumana iimvavanyo zasimahla kwi-Intanethi. Emva koko fumana le ncwadi: "IKhowudi yeMillionaire – Iindlela ezili-16 eziya kwiSakhiwo soButyebi”, nguPaul B. Farrell. Idwelisa ngamnye kwi-16 MBTI zobuntu, kunye nendlela uhlobo ngalunye lobuntu oluye lwakha ubutyebi lisebenzisa iimpawu zalo ezizodwa.

Njengoko uphonononga ezi ndlela, ndicebisa ukuba ugcine i ingxelo yenjongo yobomi. Oku kunokuba licandelo kwijenali yakho, okanye ifayile iyodwa. Kuyo, bhala phantsi kwaye uqokelele yonke into malunga nenjongo yobomi bakho. Zama ukubhala ingxelo yombono. Dwelisa iinjongo zakho eziphambili zobomi ezilishumi, kwaye wenze uluhlu olude lwezinto othanda ukuzenza. Cinga ngendlela onokuziphilisa ngayo ngokwenza oko ukunandiphayo. Kanye ngenyanga, yenza impinda yoko ukubhalileyo. Njengoko ujonga ezi nkcukacha zixabisekileyo, uya kufumana isishwankathelo seminqweno kunye nomnqweno wakho. Injongo yobomi bakho iya kucaca ngakumbi kuwe. Kodwa ungayeki apho, qhubeka uqokelela ulwazi oluninzi. Ungongeza ufundo kuvavanyo lwakho lobuntu, uvavanyo lwakho lokuBala ngamanani, kunye neenkcazo zezinto ozibonayo kumaphupha akho. Konke kuya kukunceda ukuzisa ukucaca ngakumbi kunye nombono ebomini bakho.

Nje ukuba unombono wokuba yintoni injongo kunye nomdla wakho, qala ngoku; nokuba yinto encinci… ngokuba amava ngoyena mfundisi-ntsapho. Amava akho aya kukuxelela enoba le yinjongo yobomi bakho kusini na. Ngaba ivuselela inkanuko kuwe? Kufuneka uzame injongo yakho kwaye ubone ukuba iyahambelana na! Cinga ngomsebenzi onokuvolontiya kuwo, okanye iprojekthi ekhethekileyo onokuthi uyiqalise ngokwakho. Ngokuyiqala ngoku, uzinika ithuba lokuba ube namava okuphila injongo yakho.

Ekupheleni kobomi bakho, uya kujonga ngasemva kuko konke okwenzileyo. Impumelelo yakho enkulu kunye nawona maxesha akho okonwaba. Ufuna ukukwazi ukuthi, "Ewe, ndiphile ubomi obumnandi. Ndiyabulela ngayo yonke into endiyinikwe ngubomi." Kwaye ukwenza oko, kufuneka uqale ngoku. Fumana loo jenali, wenze ezo mvavanyo, kwaye ubhale phantsi ezo ngcinga… kuba uyakhula, kwaye kufuneka utyhile injongo yakho yokuphila ubomi obonwabisayo, obanelisayo ngakumbi.